21 8 / 2014
19 8 / 2014
"It’s easy to give little quips of advice that sound great in callout quotes or in 140 characters with a “preach it, sister!” thrown in for good measure. But reality is much more complex."
15 8 / 2014
Ok, phew, I think I’ve chastised the web development community enough for not knowing what Homestuck is.
In 20 years, we’re all going to feel like outsiders for all the Homestuck in-jokes and gifs and nostalgia. And we should be paying attention to it now! It’s a BIG DEAL. It will impact what people will want to make with the web. It should impact the tools and resources we’re preparing for the future.
11 8 / 2014
Rejection stings, at worst it hurts like getting hit in the mouth with a baseball bat.
But everyone experiences rejection, even the people you look up to. Yes, your personal heroes have felt Rejection’s lash many times.
I’ve met many talented, promising young hopefuls who’ve been too scared of rejection to “put themselves out there,” whether it was submitting an idea to a publisher or speaking in front of a crowd about something important to them.
I like to say, “When it hurts inside, that’s your body telling you ‘don’t do that again.’” And for the most part that’s true: when you let someone down, you hurt inside because you’ve failed yourself and others. Pain is a great teacher, and emotional pain is your body thwacking you on the nose with a rolled up newspaper: Study harder! Don’t forget mom’s birthday! Take better care of your body!
But there are times when your body doesn’t know what’s good for it.
When it comes to risking a bit of your pride for a chance to be accepted, to make things happen, the possibility of Rejection is a small price to pay to take that gamble. Pride costs you nothing but that bitter sting.
What happens when you get rejected. She says no, she’s busy. Your boss doesn’t give you the raise because funds are tight. You get a thanks-but-no-thanks form letter. And what happens? The world still turns. You still draw breath. And you’re alive to fight another day.
When you feel that bitter tinge at Rejection, it’s your body’s natural defense mechanism looking out for you: augh, don’t put yourself in that position again! Don’t fail again! But your body is being stupid. It doesn’t understand what it takes to succeed.
All success stories start when our heroes pick themselves up out of the mud and try again from a different angle.
So please, the next time you hurt inside after being Rejected, after not being accepted, remember that it’s a misplaced pain and that you’re only a failure when you decide not to get back up.